Would you ever talk to your friends the way you talk to yourself? Would you tell a complete stranger something negative about their appearance to their face? Well, why is it ok to say insensitive things about ourselves?
Most of us were raised to learn the term and action of “respect”. Treat others the way you want to be treated, however everyday we tell ourselves something negative about ourselves, and most of us are so used to it, we don’t even realize we do it. Weight, appearance, intelligence, are things that we are constantly bashing ourselves over. We are allowing ourselves to be our own monsters, our own bullies.
On every magazine’s front page there is some sort of artical that is about “self improvement” however, is “how to lose 10 pounds in 5 days” truly self improvement? Or is it just another tactic to get us to feed into the constant belief that “maybe I will be happier if I looked this way, or acted this way.” We rarely find ourselves stumbling upon things that tell us that what we are, what we are doing is just fine.
When we are constantly feeding ourselves more things to pick apart, we tend to lose what is the most important factor of life. Happiness. If you let go of the nonsense that tells us how to look, eat, feel, talk, and live we will find it easier to accept us for what we are. We need to tell ourselves that we don’t always have something we need to “work on”, and just be happy with the bodies that we were given.
Perhaps we can wake up in the morning, and say something good about ourselves. Make it a goal to wake up in the morning and say positive things to ourselves until we begin to believe it. We need to understand that we cannot fix everything and that not everything needs to improve. Sure, improving one’s well-being can be a positive thing, but how are we supposed to achieve any of these improvements if we are constantly harassing our own self worth?
Make it a mission. Tell yourself you’re beautiful. Tell yourself you’re trying. Tell yourself that things just in fact might be just fine. We cannot be happy if we are chasing things that are telling us otherwise. The next time you catch yourself saying something negative about yourself, think about it again. Would you say that to a stranger? Would you say that to a friend? Be kind to yourself, you just might like the way you feel.